The social stigma of having an 8-6 job is becoming more apparent.Especially some women take pride in saying that they are woking full time and are extremely busy. To them, women sitting at home are good for nothing as if they are wasting their time in unproductive activities.
When I came to USA, I came across these questions quite often. Hey, what do you do the whole day? Don't you get bored? Why don't you take up some job? Well, of course out of pressure and to maintain my "status" that I am well educated and can definitely work in a foreign country, I took up a full-time job. And that's when the real struggle started.
I used to wake up at 5 a.m. , clean the house, cook, have breakfast, pack lunch for me and my husband and out of home by 9 a.m. Trust me, my husband is quite cooperative. He shares hands in household work and his job is equally demanding.He was trying hard to manage both well, as he wanted me to be happy and content. Even I thought I will be happy once I get a job.
But that was just the misconception. I was doing everything as if I have to finish up a race, no matter I win or loose, I have to reach the deadline. I was cooking as if I just have to cook to fill our stomach, eating as if it is the most futile activity on earth. I have no time to pursue my hobbies of crafting and writing. Yes, I was minting money. Definitely our bank balance was "Rising" but our quality of life was "Falling", falling where there is no peace, no happiness no fun.
There are people who can balance work and home very well. Hats off to them. But honestly I am not a SUPER WOMAN. I have my limitations and a certain way in which I want to accomplish things in my life.I may not be a superwoman but definitely a super cook, caretaker, cleaner, organizer, dishwasher, crafter, writer, blogger and much more.
I am not here to justify or give my opinions on whether one should work or not. It is an individual choice.The only issue I have is when people do not understand why someone has decided to quit working. Why a decision to stay at home was taken. The nagging question, What do you do the whole day, irritates me to the CORE. These ignorant people should realize and respect the decision of others and if that's not possible for them its better they mind their own business at least.
Your Corporate job does not define you, it is your personality and values which do, your creativity and intelligence too.
If housewives are bombarded with such questions and judged with preconceived notions there will be a time when homemakers will become extinct just like dinosaurs !
Dedicated to all the homemakers who try hard to keep up with what their family needs the most, their TIME.